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  Who has lost faith?

  by logic&reason in

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  i am curious about who (after leaving) went on to other religions vs. lost faith completely.

  once i started questioning the wt society, i began to question everything.

  as jw's we are taught from childhood up that other religions are false - so it seems easy, after elliminating the last one, to be rid of religion altogether.. .

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  A recent ex study phoned to invite me to the memorial

  by strawberry cake in

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  i have a friend,who i used to study with for quite a while.

  she was slowed down in her 'spiritual progress' because she had to work tuesday nights.

  so couldn't get to all the meetings.this prevented her from becoming a publisher for many years.

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  Thanks Pahpa
  Thanks Hope
  
  I have spent time with her and explained that I am still here for her and that I can't stay just for her.
  I hope she knows I am still her friend.
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  A recent ex study phoned to invite me to the memorial

  by strawberry cake in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i have a friend,who i used to study with for quite a while.

  she was slowed down in her 'spiritual progress' because she had to work tuesday nights.

  so couldn't get to all the meetings.this prevented her from becoming a publisher for many years.

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  I have a friend,who I used to study with for quite a while. She was slowed down in her 'spiritual progress' because she had to work Tuesday nights. so couldn't get to all the meetings.This prevented her from becoming a publisher for many years. She had family abroad that she had to feed and finds it hard to find work as she is almost illiterate.
  
  Well, since I included her situation in my many complaints against the WT she has been made publisher..even though she does not get to all the meetings. They did this, I believe to try and hold on to her, now that I have left. Well it worked,because she was very excited about being a publisher and phoned to let me know when she was having her questions and the results.( She said she can't shun me because Jesus said we must help the 'weak'.)
  
  When I first left. She was devastated and cried and cried at my home for me to please come back. Today she begged me to come to the memorial. She said I have been so kind to her and helped her so much...and now I am not there. She said she feels weak and if it wasn't for her love for Jehovah she would leave the Organization.She was very upset.
  
  I have tried to explain many things, but she does't get it. She thinks something has got hold of me. I feel sorry for her, because I was so full on before and encouraged her so much..Anyway I think she's finally got the message. I 'm not coming back. I still care for her and her family and hope she doesn't shun me. But what will be, will be. Any experiences like this?
  
  xxx Strawberry Cake
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  How Did Your JW Wife or Husband Leave You?

  by new boy in

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  2. experiences

  inspiried by other post and threads....and the love to type.. after going from being a self rightious pioneer and bethelite, to someone who had major doubts.my years drifted by me.

  i had been a watchtower slave for over 50 years.

  one day at a time, i sold my soul.

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  P.S.S. So was it worth it....my answer is YES!.....Don't waste another day....don't waste....50 years like me....one day at a time...saying to yourself "It really isn't all that bad."
  
  
  
  
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  On Saturday... I decided to dump all my literature

  by tak in

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  2. experiences

  it felt good!

  i took that huge plastic bin that contained multiple copies of all the books given out by the society, all the old wt and awake's that i had, the year books, etc..... and threw into the city dump.

  my boyfriend thought i should maybe bring the literature back to them and i said "hell no.... so they can give it out to more innocent people.. he agreed.

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  After just a few months of leaving the Org, me and my husband decided to dump all of our WT literature...We aren't DF or DA (yet)We have been told, if we stay away they won't take further action.
  
  Well, my son still has a study at our home with an elder. The elder asked if he could get out his benefit book . My son told me he had left his in the car, so could he borrow mine.
  
  I didn't quite know what to tell my son or this elder who was sitting waiting in the living room for my son to come back with the book. So for about 10 minutes we were hunting round the house looking for a book that I knew wasn't there. In the end my son printed from the cd rom. He was put out though when I whispered to him that we had thrown them out. He asked me in a loud voice, if we were trying to make a point. I just told him to look after his things in the future. It is not my responsibility. My husband and I ended up in fits of laughter in the bedroom.
  
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  My neice died this morning

  by MsMcDucket in

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  my neice who had cancer died at 3:00 a.m. my sister just called and told me.

  i'll put up the obituiaries when it's posted.

  no need for responses.

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  So sorry to hear this.
  
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  My JW mother passed away

  by desbah in

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  so much has happen over the pass years since i posted on this forum.

  three years ago i posted my first topic about my mother, she passed away recently.

  it still hurts to lose a mother, someone who gave you birth and raised you the best she could.

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  So sorry to hear about your loss.
  
  xxx Strawberry Cake
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  Why do the majorityof JW's look so happy at the hall?

  by JH in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  each time i go, i see a bunch of happy people, young and old.

  some smile more than others, but just about everyone seems happy to be there.. maybe we left because we weren't that happy, rather than finding flaws in the religion.. maybe they look happy because they aren't allowed to look sad..

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  Maybe they look happy because they aren't allowed to look sad.
  
  
  
  
  
  
  In my congregation I thought the brothers and sisters looked terribly miserable,especially when they were singing. I would look around and wonder what was going wrong with JWs ..were was the joy ?
  
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  Did anyone ever "Really" stumble you ?

  by Casper in

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  this is one of the things i felt could get really petty in the congregation i attended, sometimes over the top, in my opinion.. one time a group of us sisters went on a shopping trip.

  the driver was knocking herself out trying to find some "decent" music on the radio.

  finally gave up and put a john mellencamp tape in.

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  I suppose I was stumbled in regards to how I viewed the 'God appointed elders'
  
  I noticed that most in my congregation weren't that spiritual. For example they preached pioneering, but many didn't like the ministry. They preached about being careful about what we view, yet many watched films/programs that I told my sons they could nt. They preached not to be materialistic, yet the majority were.
  
  They were clumsy with the brothers and sisters and didn't act quickly(incredible procrastination) to protect vulnerable ones.
  
  Yet I have heard of elders who counsel others on silly minor issues..that shouldn't really stumble anyone. I was told by an elderess that I could stumble her student because I rode my bike on the pavement as I left her house ( I rode off the pavement onto the road outside her house)I know of another sister who was told not to powder her nose in the hall as it was stumbllng someone in the meeting.(this sister was suffering from hot flushes so her face was alway shining.This counsel really upset her especially as he did it in the hall.
  
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  Recent qutters, do you even have a social structure now?

  by oompa in

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  at least when i was in high school, i had lots of somewhat secret worldly friends.

  i fit in well for guy with short hair.

  my liberal elder/dad let me play on the tennis and soccer team....and go to the prom with my catholic girlfriend...talk about scandal.

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  I am starting to spread my wings.
  
  I've joined a few clubs eg..rambling( I've met some really nice people on walks) and scouts with my youngest son.(hoping my son will make friends and I will meet other mums.) Also the angling club.
  Started visiting more nature reserves and going on country walks more with my family.
  
  Also I started saying yes to invites from 'worldlings'.I have started giving more time to my own siblings and I speak to my parents more. Even the pets get more attention.
  
  Indeed my husband and I are really appreciating the non JW friends we have who we had falsely considered just acquaintances before.Who,truly are nicer than most of our JW 'friends'
  
  So we are actively trying to move on. At the moment the cloud of the WTS still hangs over us,(we talk constantly about them) but we are hoping that in the months to come, this will clear and we will truly be free of it.
  
  xxx Strawberry Cake